‘Where mother-in-law disrespects her daughter-in-law, sisters-in-laws beats her up, so, where is a woman safe from a woman? She doesn’t know when Woman’s Day is but she knows that if she doesn’t mop the floor in the very morning and doesn’t take grass she will get beaten up by her mother-in-law.’ This is the Facebook status of news worker Ghanashyam Shrestha. Which status can be the representative status of Mother Nepal.
It’s her daily work to carry bricks in a huge on construction building in Anamnagar without any care at very cold morning. Her as in Harimaya Kumal’s. The 35 aged whose husband is in Qatar tells her former home to be Ramechhap. She has no options except to carry her 1 year old daughter and 3 year old son in her arms and go to work. The woman who claims her husband to have been went to Qatar for just two months doesn’t know its Women’s Day today. Now how will she know about the rights she is to have.
Ladies from isolated villages or from a geographically backward place to not know about her rights might be quiet normal. But the female sisters from the capital have this situation in Nepal. Who might understand this? Who will listen to this? Everyone might have their own compulsion and problems. Who is responsible for being unknown about their own rights? She herself, time or the country? This is the question of the citizens.
Why doesn’t Harimaya know things about rights? Because she is being more leaned towards the responsibility of her suckling baby who is right beside her than the rights about a few miles away. All she knows is how she is going manage food for day and night. Only being concentrated on how she will provide her children food, she is only a representative character of our country Nepal. A lot of female sisters have this same painful story. Above that their stories are deeper.
After her sister-in-law’s marriage didn’t work out she returned back home from where she started getting neglected in the family. After mother-in-law started listening to her sister-in-law, she became unable to live in the house and came to Kathmandu. Her family wasn’t able to stand in the expenses of Kathmandu. In just 4 years she had 2 kids. Husband is abroad. She is working just to get some food. But she feels bad for her sister-in-law living in village rather than herself.
Harimaya doesn’t want to remember that woman even in her dreams who treated her in her own house like a rival and how her mother-in-law supported that woman. She says, “A women’s enemy is not a man it’s a woman herself.” This females story is totally comparable to the news worker Shrestha’s status. The no. of female sisters in Nepal whose stories match with Shrestha’s status is very high.